In our daily lives, we act in a way keeping in mind how others would think. Before we go out, we take time to dress up properly. Why? So that we don’t look unattractive.
We want to maintain the persona we have built for ourselves. Let me give you some more examples.
When you are around your crush, you act in a way to impresses her.
When your friends don’t consider your opinion before making a decision, you feel unwanted.
You see, this is what we call caring what other people think. In this blog, I will teach you how to not care what others think of you so that you can act the way you want.
So let us start,
1. Expose yourself to the feeling:
To learn how to not care what others think of you, expose yourself to the uncomfortable feeling. Learn how to not act in a way to impress others. Let’s assume, you are around your crush. You want to talk to her but her friends are around.
Most of us start to think about what her friends would think. This is the feeling we have to expose ourselves to.
This is the way that has proven to be successful over and over again. If you swallow the hard pill and do the tasks that you fear like in this case, talking to your crush when her friends are around, the fear starts to fade away.
Think about it like this, If you went over and spoke to your crush when her friends were around, you know you will gain confidence. Approaching again won’t be a big issue. This is how fear works.
Let’s assume you want to get a face tattoo today. People around you dislike it and start to call you ugly. You get affected by it and start to think how can I stop caring? This is where you need to accept the feeling since you are already exposed to it. Take it like a champ, and slowly you will start to observe, these feelings don’t affect you anymore.
That is when you truly don’t care what others think of you
2. Think about what you want for yourself
Thinking about your ideal life will help you a lot to not care what other people think of you.
Let us assume, you want to be a YouTuber. You are not taking the action to become one because society might think of you.
Here is what you have got to understand, you have two options: live the life you aspire to have or live your life doing something else because of society.
This way will also teach you how to not care what others think of you.
3. Worst case scenario
Whenever you start thinking about others before anything you want, imagine the worst-case scenario.
By imagining the worst-case scenario, you start to eliminate the fear of taking action.
Let us assume, in 2 minutes, you have to talk in front of 10 thousand people. You suddenly start to think, what if I mess up? what if people don’t laugh at my jokes?
Here, think about the worst-case scenario. You’ll be surprised that you were making a big deal out of such a small thing. If people don’t laugh at your jokes, you can try next time and work on your skills till you make them laugh. This is how to not care what other people think.
4. You can’t please everyone.
There will be times where you do everything right but there will still be people hating on you.
I was watching this YouTube video the other day where a guy was handing out money to poor people but there were still dislikes. That made me think what could be the reason?
After a lot of thinking, I decided to check whether similar videos had dislikes or not. I observed, they did. That showed me, You just can’t please everyone.
5. No one cares:
No one really cares about you man. This is the truth.
People have too many things going on in their own life. Nobody has time to think about you the whole day and that is just the reality.
Do you think about the random person you met in the grocery store? You don’t. And even if he did something stupid, you would forget in a day or two.
People often ask me, How to not care what others think of you, how can I stop caring. I always tell them to expose themselves to the feeling and look at the situation’s worst-case scenario. If they do that, soon they will enjoy the benefits of not caring what others think.